Comments on: FIRST TIME http://iamafreak.com/cutmylifeintopieces/2008/08/24/first-time/ Sun, 05 Feb 2012 15:33:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Mavin http://iamafreak.com/cutmylifeintopieces/2008/08/24/first-time/#comment-79 Mavin Mon, 25 Aug 2008 19:56:00 +0000 http://iamafreak.com/cutmylifeintopieces/?p=18#comment-79 IT HAPPENS...<br/>There is always a first time....<br/><br/>I know how close you are to your friends & I know you can do anything for those who you call as your friends.<br/><br/>May be something is wrong with your thinking, or possibly with the philosophy...but I think you have done your bit (& hence proved that you stick to your philosophy) by going into that group even though u knew you were uninvited. Its just that your so-called (Please dont argue if you disagree...its just my opinion) friends are too pusillanimous to discuss & sort the problems.<br/><br/>Let them go. <br/>People meet when they need support. They become friends when someone supports them. They become good friends when they get support in worst phase of their lives. They forget when they dont need support. They ignore when you ask them for support.<br/>But they forget that HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF.<br/><br/>It's ok if they meet you, ask you for support or even if they forget you. <b>But it's definitely not ok if they ignore you.</b><br/><br/>As Naveen has rightly mentioned the constant here is "change", which is what is missing in you. I believe this is the time for you to change (atleast your philosophy).<br/><br/>I would suggest change your philosophy.<br/><br/>People fall into 3 categories, your friends, not your friends & no one. You can do anything for the first kind, you will not do anything for the second & for other - who cares.<br/><br/>BTW, this is the FIRST TIME I'm posting a comment on your blog [:)] IT HAPPENS…
There is always a first time….

I know how close you are to your friends & I know you can do anything for those who you call as your friends.

May be something is wrong with your thinking, or possibly with the philosophy…but I think you have done your bit (& hence proved that you stick to your philosophy) by going into that group even though u knew you were uninvited. Its just that your so-called (Please dont argue if you disagree…its just my opinion) friends are too pusillanimous to discuss & sort the problems.

Let them go.
People meet when they need support. They become friends when someone supports them. They become good friends when they get support in worst phase of their lives. They forget when they dont need support. They ignore when you ask them for support.
But they forget that HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF.

It's ok if they meet you, ask you for support or even if they forget you. But it’s definitely not ok if they ignore you.

As Naveen has rightly mentioned the constant here is "change", which is what is missing in you. I believe this is the time for you to change (atleast your philosophy).

I would suggest change your philosophy.

People fall into 3 categories, your friends, not your friends & no one. You can do anything for the first kind, you will not do anything for the second & for other - who cares.

BTW, this is the FIRST TIME I'm posting a comment on your blog [:)]

]]> By: freak http://iamafreak.com/cutmylifeintopieces/2008/08/24/first-time/#comment-78 freak Mon, 25 Aug 2008 16:45:00 +0000 http://iamafreak.com/cutmylifeintopieces/?p=18#comment-78 naveen,<br/>i hope i knew it beforehand that i was uninvited and moreover i dont think any one really gives a fuck about what they have missed out on what i had for them.<br/><br/>PR,<br/>i know about who u r talkin abt but for me this is not just abt a girl. Its about the people who i used to think to be my freinds. Well, i do care about the girl, but the thing that has hurted me more is because of the people who i thought to be my freinds.<br/>and secondly, please dont censor anything on my blog, i love to have everything uncensored on my blog. naveen,
i hope i knew it beforehand that i was uninvited and moreover i dont think any one really gives a fuck about what they have missed out on what i had for them.

PR,
i know about who u r talkin abt but for me this is not just abt a girl. Its about the people who i used to think to be my freinds. Well, i do care about the girl, but the thing that has hurted me more is because of the people who i thought to be my freinds.
and secondly, please dont censor anything on my blog, i love to have everything uncensored on my blog.

]]> By: Pratosh Dwivedi http://iamafreak.com/cutmylifeintopieces/2008/08/24/first-time/#comment-77 Pratosh Dwivedi Mon, 25 Aug 2008 14:06:00 +0000 http://iamafreak.com/cutmylifeintopieces/?p=18#comment-77 I really dont know why we often stick to people when we know they dont even care .. <br/><br/>I experienced the same in my college first year .. I loved a girl and to get in touch with her I had to enter her group ... i felt all that u have written above, and maybe much more. But I had my priorities .. i had her in my mind, so i ignored everything else, & due to my persistence only I was able to earn her love in the end ...& being an "important" part of the group too<br/><br/>So, if u have any such priority (not necessarily tied to a girl), i think you should just stand your ground, things will def improve.<br/><br/>If u dont have any such thing, then those people dont deserve to be with a person like you .. cauz they dont know wht they r missing .. just let them DUCK off and enjoy ur life ... as u have always done ..<br/><br/>BTW, I never knew u need people to be happy ... it was u from whom i learnt how to be self contended and self involved .. and not give a s**t to wht people think ... I really dont know why we often stick to people when we know they dont even care ..

I experienced the same in my college first year .. I loved a girl and to get in touch with her I had to enter her group … i felt all that u have written above, and maybe much more. But I had my priorities .. i had her in my mind, so i ignored everything else, & due to my persistence only I was able to earn her love in the end …& being an "important" part of the group too

So, if u have any such priority (not necessarily tied to a girl), i think you should just stand your ground, things will def improve.

If u dont have any such thing, then those people dont deserve to be with a person like you .. cauz they dont know wht they r missing .. just let them DUCK off and enjoy ur life … as u have always done ..

BTW, I never knew u need people to be happy … it was u from whom i learnt how to be self contended and self involved .. and not give a s**t to wht people think …

]]> By: Naveen http://iamafreak.com/cutmylifeintopieces/2008/08/24/first-time/#comment-76 Naveen Sun, 24 Aug 2008 20:42:00 +0000 http://iamafreak.com/cutmylifeintopieces/?p=18#comment-76 Well, I guess everyone thinks that way or most of us do. What we have to realise is that, In life what remains constant is change. With time things change, people change, situation changes, thinking changes and we - ourselfs change throughout what remains constant in all these is "change". Change is something which is inevitable and when we reject to understand the change, we get hurt.<br/><br/>The best way to live life is to take up things situation by situation and do not compare the past with present because tthat way you will never get anywhere. <br/><br/>All relationships in life are like sand, the tighter you wanna hold the faster it will slip away and the same is true with friends. They come, they share, they care, they move one, they disappear and they stop caring , this is nothing to do with you this is how it will be for everyone and anyone! Never judge youself by what people say or do because the key to your heart and you mind is with you and you should be the one controling your cause. <br/><br/>If you were uninvited in the group then dont feel bad about it but do pitty the one who did that as they surely missed out on something which you had in store! Well, I guess everyone thinks that way or most of us do. What we have to realise is that, In life what remains constant is change. With time things change, people change, situation changes, thinking changes and we - ourselfs change throughout what remains constant in all these is “change”. Change is something which is inevitable and when we reject to understand the change, we get hurt.

The best way to live life is to take up things situation by situation and do not compare the past with present because tthat way you will never get anywhere.

All relationships in life are like sand, the tighter you wanna hold the faster it will slip away and the same is true with friends. They come, they share, they care, they move one, they disappear and they stop caring , this is nothing to do with you this is how it will be for everyone and anyone! Never judge youself by what people say or do because the key to your heart and you mind is with you and you should be the one controling your cause.

If you were uninvited in the group then dont feel bad about it but do pitty the one who did that as they surely missed out on something which you had in store!

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